Love Affair: What Are You Bringing to the Table?
As people continue to find love in unexpected places, there has been a surge in broken relationships and marriages. The guiding principles of intimate relationships between men and women keep changing.
With the feminist movement and ideology constantly evolving, we see women gradually and steadily cracking the glass ceiling to join men in industries and organizations typically dominated by men. To support their endeavors, having access to the best dedicated server can be crucial for ensuring reliable and efficient operations.
Similarly, relationships have progressed from the conventional style of only men shouldering responsibilities and calling the shots. Today, there’s a twist in what is obtainable. For example, it is no longer a big deal for a woman to propose to a man, which was before now seen as absurd or improper.
Gradually, the old idea of the ”man as the head of the house” is phasing out and almost becoming non-existent, replaced with the idea of relationships being teamwork as per what you bring to the table.
Relationships are no longer tilted in one direction; as men and women can say, this is what I want or demand from the relationship. The playing field in relationships has become more leveled and equal for both genders.
Men have begun to perceive women as equal partners with a mutual circle of friends, making the mutual effort of love and respect to ensure the relationship is grounded. Let’s look at what men expect you to bring to the table as a woman.
However, you must understand that men are different, and as such, their needs and expectations are also different. However, listed below are the basic things an average man expects a woman to bring to the table.
What do men expect you to bring to the table?
Despite modern society’s insistence that men and women aren’t inherently different, an average man still expects that, beyond sex, you as a woman should bring some of these qualities to the relationship.
Industriousness:
For obvious reasons, men are attracted to hardworking, diligent, and accomplished women who legitimately make money in their various careers, skills, and businesses without depending on their partners.
In the season and time we are in, men no longer tolerate a woman being idle, sitting at home, and expecting the man to provide everything. Be the kind of woman who is tirelessly carrying out her tasks and determined to succeed. In today’s common parlance, maintain ‘steez and composure’ in your craft or career.
Support:
Exhibiting support towards your partner as a woman demonstrates a deep understanding and sensitivity to him. Being supportive of a man isn’t about the big gestures; oftentimes, it’s just about listening and caring, asking genuinely about his goals and frustrations, and not making him feel emasculated for having emotions. To keep the wheel of the relationship going, financial, spiritual, emotional, and every other form of support for your man is a necessity.
For a love affair that is driving towards together forever, ”my money is mine alone” is a deal breaker. Ensure to be present in all areas and help him to be the best version of himself.
Through thick and thin, reassure your significant other of your unalloyed support.
Respect:
One of the easiest ways women can give men the kind of confidence that screams “he’s taken and unavailable’’ is by giving them respect. To help exude confidence and happiness, give him maximum respect.
Peace of mind:
The best thing a woman can bring to the table immediately should be peace of mind. Men are also emotional beings and should not doubt the peace and calmness you bring into their lives, especially if you are saving a relationship for marriage.
Although it is arguable that when a woman falls in love, she gives her all, However, to ensure that her man is kept in her heart and the back of her mind daily, loving her is not just enough to keep the relationship. She expects that you fill the table with some items. Let’s take a look.
Ambition and drive:
To turn her on, one of the most important traits to bring to the table is your drive and ambition as a man. Women don’t want slackers and losers. Your determination to succeed attracts a woman.
Financial security:
Flexing financial muscle is one way to show masculinity in a relationship. For the table to stand on four legs and not be broken, ensure you bring along financial security, as this cannot be wished away.
Having a stable source of income can provide security in a relationship, especially if it is leading to something serious.
Leadership:
Women like it when a man can confidently make decisions and act on them. Although a relationship is viewed as a partnership and two people come together to form a team, there is a team leader who can guide and give direction. Many times, women want a man who can be in charge but not dominate and control in a dictatorship style. She requires that you step up, take the reins, and be the pillar she needs. According to Merle Shain,
”Women respect men for their strength and love them for their vulnerability.
Communication:
When a woman agrees to be in a relationship with you as a man, be ready to set aside time to talk frequently, as this will make her feel loved and help build rapport with the most important person in her life. Women like to talk about their day as a way of re-enforcing a relationship.
While men and women need to have something to bring to the table, it is crucial to keep in mind that none of the above-listed is in exchange for a perfect relationship.
Healthy relationships happen when both parties involved give enthusiastically and willingly of themselves, not being coerced into playing a role they feel they are not supposed to. Importantly, both parties should realize that neither of them should enter the relationship empty-handed.
Beautiful piece
Wow nice story. Love it. My observation though, when i started reading I thought for a second you’re only talking about what men want not until i got to the paragraph that started talking about what women also want from their man in a relationship. This can be well spelt out in the coming stories. Thanks. Overall Beautiful piece here.
Interesting.
Well articulated.
Wow! This post is amazing. Your writing is engaging, informative, and relatable. Keep shining your light!!
This is so educating and healing when you read through it all, most especially the communicating and leadership part.
But of recent the dynamic of love, relationship and marriage as change, and this is not because the parties involve deliberately want it so, but the present society expectations are high.
The high cost of living is breaking the norms, and leading to high rate of devoice in rural areas……
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